Show Notes

Episode 98: Stop with the Shoulds

In this episode, recorded in early March before the COVID-19 crisis started keeping us at home, Janine and Shannon discuss one of their least favorite words, “should.”

Discussion topics include:

  • Janine’s delight that her RootsTech talk is behind her and her admiration at how well organized RootsTech is
  • How “shoulds” can weigh you down
  • That should is one of Janine’s least favorite words, and one that she tries not to use with her clients
  • How should can sneak into one’s self talk
  • The judgmental, mean nature of the word should
  • Thinking about words you can substitute for should
  • The irony that people think that Shannon and Janine tell their clients what to do
  • Recognizing resistance when you bristle at the word should
  • Getting in touch with why something is important to you to get past resistance
  • Allowing yourself to move forward with that information
  • Newsflash: There are no bonus points for making something more difficult than it needs to be
  • Letting go of preconceived ideas about the right way to do something
  • Figuring out how you can get things done with as much ease as possible
  • Editing the shoulds out of our to-do lists
  • Choosing to do things rather than feeling you should do them
  • Putting yourself back in a place of choice


2 thoughts on “Episode 98: Stop with the Shoulds”

  1. I enjoyed this podcast. I get my back up when someone else says to me or I say to myself, “You should…” I usually try to turn that around and say it as, “I could…” It gives me choice, it gives me flexibility, and it’s a little bit playful.

    Another thing I like to say is, “I get to…” rather than “I have to…” Works great for getting my activity in when I would rather not.

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