Change can be hard, especially if we hang on to regret or wistfulness about the way things used to be. This week Janine and Shannon discuss letting go of emotions surround the past so that you can move forward to a better future.
Discussion topics include:
- Poodle encounters in Portland
- The value of looking to the future rather than spending time regretting the past
- How this applies to moving house
- Focusing on the positive of a new situation when you have to make a change
- How knowing what’s important to you allows you to focus on the benefits of the change
- Figuring out a way to cut yourself some slack and move forward
- Avoiding becoming mired in wanting things to be how they used to be
- Shannon’s early propensity for rearranging furniture
- Shifting away from being bummed about what you can no longer do and embracing joy over what you can do
- Thinking about what you want, thinking about what’s possible for you, and finding the silver lining when facing change
- Shannon’s verbing of the word “crutch”
So I got dumped last month. Six days before our 4-year anniversary. It hurt like hell until I got to tell him what I thought. From that point on, I have had great strides in coming to terms with the break-up. But I’m not dumb…even though I am outwardly “letting go and moving on,” I recognize that my heart is still grieving and will do so for awhile. I have contacted a number of arts organizations here in Kansas City (symphony, ballet, opera, theatre, etc.) and bought tickets to a lot of performances. This way I will have something to look forward to and to get me out of the house. I did this five years ago after I lost my mother with whom I was very close. Just knowing that I would get out and about gave me a reason to move on. I won’t need to do this as much during the 2020-2021 season, but I am looking forward to the 2019-2010 season with relish. Who knows? Maybe I will meet someone at one of the events. That’s how I met my last sweetheart and we packed a lot of loving and a lot of living into the four years we had together. We are going to remain close friends and stay in each other’s lives.