Episode 25: Q&A 2 – Ease, Unease and Circling Back

In this second “Q&A on the 5s” episode, Janine and Shannon answer some phoned-in questions from listeners.

Discussion topics include:

  • How sometimes ease doesn’t come easily
  • The perennial problem of perfectionism: It can feel uncomfortable to stop at less than 100 percent
  • The discomfort of striving and failing to achieve perfection vs the discomfort of letting things not be perfect
  • How Janine let go of a perfectionistic temptation to rewrite her client’s spice labels
  • Practicing good enough on less consequential projects
  • Revisiting tasks to make good enough better
  • How Shannon gives herself permission to come back to a task, deeming it “good enough for now” which allows her to stop.
  • The freedom of good enough

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Episode 24: Start Where You Are

Perfectionists tend to want to have all their ducks in a row before getting started on a new project. That tendency can be paralyzing. And it’s so unnecessary. In this episode, Shannon and Janine talk about how just starting where you are can benefit you in so many ways.

Discussion topics include:

  • Why things don’t have to be perfect in order for you to get started
  • That just by starting and moving forward, you create momentum
  • How you don’t know what you need to know until you start
  • The paralyzing effect of perfectionism
  • Some current examples from Janine and Shannon’s lives of how they struggle with this
  • How thinking of doing something as a practice or experiment can take the pressure off a new project
  • Starting a new system now and worrying about the backlog later
  • The impossibility of setting up a perfect system before you start
  • How stopping things that aren’t working out for you is smart

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Shannon’s famous lemon-ginger-honey concoction  (which she didn’t actually invent but is nonetheless very effective for sore throats)

Episode 23: Overcoming Bad Habits

Last week Janine and Shannon talked about creating helpful habits. This week, we look at the other side of the coin–letting go of bad habits. Shannon shares her view that all habits (even bad ones) are the result of good intentions and talks about how we can use that information to kick bad habits.

Discussion topics include:

  • The inherent value of bad habits
  • Peeling back the many layers of a bad habit to find the need it fulfills
  • Figuring out how to fulfill the positive intention in a more beneficial way
  • Being kind to yourself as you work on letting go of bad habits
  • Creating a helpful habit that is incompatible with the bad habit
  • The double-edged sword of habits becoming so automatic
  • Becoming conscious of your unwanted habits and breaking their spell
  • Shannon’s three-step process to letting go of a bad habit
  • Remembering that your bad habits don’t define you

 

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